It would seem to me that if we want something really bad,
but do not need it, and we just “go for it” so to speak, then when the time
comes that we honestly NEED something, can we afford it? Chances are we would
not and the reason is I think is the same that could possibly relate to our
daily lives. For example, when we go to the store we try, or at least should
try to get what we need and leave behind what we WANT. That way we will always
have something for the future. In other
words, if one was to choose a mate solely based on what is in his/hers bank
account rather than what’s in the heart, the chances are great that one and
eventual both will be very unhappy. Same holds true when one simply choses a
mate only because he/she is “SO handsome, or SO pretty.” And you take that
person for no other reason their physical appearance.” What happens IF one if not both of you “God
forbid”, is stricken with an illness or disease or a horrible accident that
suddenly or even over time erases the beauty that you loved, rather LUSTED
over. Would you simply stop loving them because they looked different? IF “in
my opinion” if it was the only the outer beauty that you wanted, I would dare
to say, NO you would not stay. But if it were to be complicated by your having,
or wanting to be the “good one”, yes one may stay, but not for the rite
reasons. Why I would say or even think such a thing one may ask? Because you
did not actually ad honestly “love” the person, you simply “lusted” over what
made you feel good about yourself. I would even go as far as to say even if you
stayed with someone in the situation you or maybe even both of them would
cheat. Love is blind and accepting all of ones faults, love is forgiving, love
is everlasting, and love is being faithful and truthful. No matter how painful
it may seem to someone, “love is being open and honest to whom you really
are.” If one cannot be honest enough to
be honest with one’s self, how can you expect to be another to be honest with
you. No, love is not, will not and should not be attached to another’s fame,
fortune, or what he/she can do for ME, but what can I do for the other.
I think I should mention something about myself; no I am far
from being rich, but I do ok for myself. I own and run my own business and I
thank goodness that I have the best boss in the world. I was raised EXTREMEMLY
poor realizing and accepting the fact that if we had utilities for more than
six months out of the year, we had a good year. OR if we had something other than
coffee and biscuits for we had a special breakfast. And you know what, I am SO
thankful for those so many lean years, it made me be so much more appreciative
of what I have today. During those lean years, while in my teen’s trying to get
through high school and college, I felt ashamed or embarrassed to even talk to
a girl, much less asking her out on a date. And when I did they first question
I was hit with was “what kind of car do you drive”. For the record I was
driving a 1967 (I believe) Ford Falcon. This thing was a faded bluish color,
with faded yellow doors, ragged seats and only am radio. I was proud of my old
car and even more proud me being the person I was that no one else wanted to
take time to see. Well enough is enough I was thinking so I decided to try one
more time on the date thing. With a plan “B”, just in case. So I ask out
another young lady, (high school), and low and behold she said yes. Great I
finally and just maybe found a girl that did not ask about my car, or where do
I work, or how much I was planning on spending on her. The day came, I got as
dressed up as I could, feeling lucky to be going on a date with a girl who was
nice. The date was really just a movie and eats kind of thing. Later in the
evening I pulled up to her house, and there she was, man did she look pretty
just standing there at the door waiting for me to arrive. (Ok, the standing at
the door thing waiting on me was an exaggeration, could have just been good or
bad timing.) At any rate as soon as I pulled up, I could see that pretty
expression change to something like, “OHHhh CRAP” as she was moving back into
the house. I walked up to the door, rang the doorbell, she came to the door,
obviously staring at my car while explaining that “she all of a sudden got sick
to her stomach and that her head started to hurt. She just did not feel like
going out that night, that she was sorry for being sick and for me to just go
ahead and have a good time.” I simply ask if it would be ok if I were to call
her some time? Her reply was, we will see. Ok, fine I mean she was pretty and
all, in my eyes anyway and she did seem nice. But what the heck, plan B is in
effect so let’s roll. My step father had a brand new Cadillac, man this thing
was some kind of sharp. Well for the mid 70’s anyway. I ask Bob. (my stepdad),
if I could use his Cadillac for a little while. He had this “OH HELL no” look
in his eyes and face. But he ask me, son you have a car, why do you want to use
my car, I just bought that car. I explained what just happened and what I
wanted to do at which time Bob, smiled, gave me the key’s and told me to have a
good time. So I left in Bob’s new Cadillac, and went right back to that pretty
girl’s house. I rang the doorbell, and here she came. Still dressed and looking
just as pretty, she noticed the Cadillac and what I saw you may wonder. I told her that I decided to go ahead on out
for a little while, but I just wanted to stop back by to check on her and to
see if I could do anything for her before I head out. A MIRACLE, SHE WAS HEALED. She made it very clear that she
was feeling better and thought she could go out after all. I politely told her
that I was not interested in our continuing on with our date, that I wanted her
to now that I am a good person and what I may lack on the outside I more than
make up for from who I am on the INSIDE. That stayed with me even up to
now. Let me explain please, I have cars,
trucks, fly planes Yes I am a prop jock, a nice house and my Harley. I am
blessed with not just the ability but with the intestinal and testicular
fortitude to work extremely hard to be where I am. OK, back on topic, usually
if not for business my first few dates are nice in the traditional since. As I
maybe a not so fancy restaurant, but then again I am not drawn to the fancy
shmancy, I got more money then you kind of place. Just to see what her reaction
is. I want her to see who I am, and not what she THINKS I am. I want someone
who will stick with and love me through the rough times as well as the good
times. I realize, understand and accept that look’s/appearances, success, fame
or fortune is not a given me, it is not eternal. You can have all those things
today and lose them tomorrow. Ahhhh, but love, I mean TRUE love IS eternal; it
will last even through death. Like an
old saying “Money can buy you a new puppy but ONLY love can make it wag its
tail.” So how do you feel about what I have said? More importantly about the
actual meanings and opinions I may have. IF anyone actually does see and read
this, would you be so kind as to let me know what your thoughts are?
